“Just a brief note at this difficult time – Ian and I both, and I’m sure John also, feel about financial donations, flowers etc this:
Rather than send us anything – we have too much already – do one of the following:
1. Write the words “Jhonn Balance” on a small piece of paper, put it in a hole in the ground or a pot, and plant a vegetable or tree over it. Some people might want to anoint the paper with their own seed as well. When you see the plant grow or even better when you eat the resulting vegetable, know you have him beside (or inside) you.
2. If you see someone that needs some kind of small help or kindness, do so, but say “there you are Jhonn Balance”, if only for the pleasure of seeing the startled look on their face. (It was a running joke between us that Jhonn (like Blanche Dubois from Streetcar Named Desire) “often relied on the kindness of strangers”)
And to everyone that has sent messages so soon – thank you SO so much – They are a massive comfort and help and mean a lot, even though sometimes it IS hard to read emails through the tears!!!! B^) What is the emoticon for that I wonder?
Love to all
Sleazy and Ian”